"My best guy friend and I were snuggled on his couch underneath a blanket when I realized that neither his girlfriend nor my boyfriend would be happy if they saw us -- and that our platonic relationship wasn't as platonic as we thought."Miss X, 24, XXX
As far as i concerned, this is what will happened when a guy and a girl having the best of their 'platonic' friendships. Having fun without realizing how far have they go. Surely, they will say that there is nothing between them. But think about it, without realizing the real meaning of platonic, confusion have set in. How far do you believe that a man and a woman can maintain in a platonic friendship? I'm very skeptic to those who is hypo-confidence in answering me optimistically.
According to M. Michael, Within the discipline of philosophy, "Platonic" generally is the adjectival form of Plato, thus pointing us directly toward him or any of his doctrines. But in day-to-day lingo, when someone says "platonic," what they're usually doing is setting it up as a contrast to sexual. By far the most common usage of the word "platonic" outside of philosophy circles is when it's referring to a friendship or relationship.
I would defined platonic friendship as to, involving, as a striving towards friendships of ideal beauty. Purely free from sensual desire. Based on this definition, it's quite difficult to be in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex , although i did not deny that guy and girl can be buddy. Still it is a difficult and tricky process.
I'm my humble opinion, it's a mammoth task for opposite gender to keep a friendship "platonic" especially after crossing the line of flirty landmines. Even after you realizing that you have step on the time bomb, 90% out of 100% you will still linger around it and happily enjoying the sinful but disastrous temptation. Sometimes, for newbies (without any experience) it's almost impossible to draw the line for them...unless he/she is born with super automatic platonic-boundary detector and with God mercy to be bless with a strong will.
Up to this point, certainly there are people disagree with me. But definitely they are entitled to express their thoughts on it. But as the matter of fact, experience had taught me that it is true whether you agree with me or not. So, that would be rude if you think that i am saying this without clear after thought. Prove to me that i am wrong. My advice, please... always keep your feelings check.
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It's true that platonic friendship is not always possible. When romantic feelings spring up in both parties, then the friendship turns into a romantic relationship and everyone is happy. But most of the time only one of the friends becomes attracted to the other, and then the platonic relationship is in trouble. But if the friend whose feelings have shifted towards romance can suppress or ignore those feelings, then platonic friendship can continue on as before. But often times that’s not possible and as sad and painful as it is, sometimes friendships end.
ReplyDeleteBut this doesn't mean you can't be friends with members of the opposite gender. Of course platonic relationships are possible. You can be friends; just don't expect to be the best of friends. Your platonic friendship will consist of casual meetings with mutual friends, maybe the occasional help each other out. But this will usually need to involve others especially if one side of the friendship has romantic feelings towards
the other. This is why many platonic relationships do not work well.
Platonic friendships are best when they can stay platonic and never cross the romantic line. There are so many people out there
to date, don't date your friends. The platonic friend became your friend because the two of you were alike in fun and active ways. You became friends because you liked each other for reasons other than romance,
KEEP IT THAT WAY. KEEP YOUR GOOD FRIENDS and FIND A DATE SOMEWHERE ELSE!
Love the way you put it, "...The platonic friend became your friend because the two of you were alike in fun and active ways. You became friends because you liked each other for reasons other than romance,
ReplyDeleteKEEP IT THAT WAY. KEEP YOUR GOOD FRIENDS and FIND A DATE SOMEWHERE ELSE!" Sound so right.
Not necessarily. We're talking about keeping platonic friendships in relation to your or other people's circle of friends whom you interact with in your everyday life. Love is another subject matter. But just to emphasize: love is a union of mind and hearts between two (2) FREE souls (regardless of who or where they are and how they met);sharing the same interests or activities and who may or may not started out as friends first. Moreso, they can inspire and support each other to do better in their other field of interests. That is my idea of love... I wonder what's yours ...?
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